CosmicAvatar Posted July 25, 2011 Share Posted July 25, 2011 just talk to a woman you like, easier said than done for those shy amoungst us, I freeze up, talk crap or sweat and run, my confidence is so low in regard women and I can be very shy :-( plus come on, those woman who actually are single at these cons arnt looking for a tall fat shy dude like me, they seem to want twilight rock hard pecs or tennant look alikes lol Not necessarily, they don't. I was attracted to my husband because I was incredibly shy around men (still am at times) but found it easy to talk to him. It doesn't matter how good-looking someone is (aesthetic appreciation aside!); attraction has very little to do with that. Besides, maybe they think you won't be interested in them, so that can work both ways. But you won't know unless you try. And remember, if you're standing next to someone in a queue, it's a pretty safe bet that you're both in it for the same reason. That's your starting topic right there. That's how I've struck up conversations with people (including you!) and ended up with some great friends as a result, so just take a deep breath and go for it. Better to try and see what happens than to go home cursing yourself for a missed opportunity. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
plushroom Posted July 25, 2011 Share Posted July 25, 2011 Thank you, fellow Herts resident :) Being the only single person in my immediate circle of friends I used to get stressed out about it but now I focus on me and am trying to get out there more and hopefully something will click with someone but I'll have some good times in the meantime. Oh and I don't have to deal with the arguments they sometimes do. lol! You're welcome fellow Herts resident! :) It IS nice to be free of arguments, you are certainly right there! And for future reference, if ANYONE sees me at an event, feel free to say hi :) more friends the better I say! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jael001 Posted July 25, 2011 Share Posted July 25, 2011 there seem to be a few of us Herts residents around here *waves* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
adriangill Posted July 25, 2011 Share Posted July 25, 2011 I like the speed dating idea, maybe we could have "speeddateamania" Oh dear. I can already see the first request by a certain person - "Will there be photo shoots?" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
plushroom Posted July 25, 2011 Share Posted July 25, 2011 there seem to be a few of us Herts residents around here *waves* We're all here it seems - YAY!!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rockstar6662 Posted July 25, 2011 Share Posted July 25, 2011 there seem to be a few of us Herts residents around here *waves* Hi to you too. Don't have it on my profile thingy but I'm in Harpenden. And there's a link in my sig to my photo gallery with one or two pics of me there somewhere though I don't go spreading too many around. Should be at the next MK event and EMS so do say hi if you recognise me. Really helped make a great event getting to know one or two people finally, the more the merrier. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
crippsy_99 Posted July 25, 2011 Share Posted July 25, 2011 Im an odd one (yes in several ways ) in that I can be loud, up front and out there, but then I can be one of the shyest people around! If I know someone, and I feel comfortable, or brave enough to be 'loud', then im quite up front and loud in the thick of things and will get right into convos and sometimes you cant shut me up! But then if theres either a few people in the group I dont know, or particularly when speaking to new people or those I dont know, I just go right into a shell, and wont say much, if anything, and apparently can come off as being a bit rude unintentionally. So complete opposites really. Speaking to women I dont know seems to be especially problematic as ive had so many bad experiences with women in the past, I dont like starting convos for fear of being told to sod off and do one etc Of course this means I get on well with people I generally meet online, but stick me in a room of people I dont know, and look for me in the corner trying to escape on my phone or something, so meeting people is person is a nightmare! And the sad thing is now, I just dont have the time to meet girls, either at home or at events as im always so busy. Lfcc I didnt stop once all weekend and was running around all over the place so didnt get chance to talk to hardly anyone. Also, I have the built in notion now that at 28 and never having had a relationship, no-one would want to date me now at my age and have resigned myself to lonely old age already lol (even though I know its probably nonsense ) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gillianre Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 Also, I have the built in notion now that at 28 and never having had a relationship, no-one would want to date me now at my age and have resigned myself to lonely old age already lol (even though I know its probably nonsense ) One word - pfffff Never too old for anything!!! I didn't start going to conventions till I was 28, two years later and I have finally found something to deserve being called a geek. Relationship or not (not in my case) I'm happy - met soooo many new people at these events and am a different person because of them. x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jael001 Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 there seem to be a few of us Herts residents around here *waves* Hi to you too. Don't have it on my profile thingy but I'm in Harpenden. And there's a link in my sig to my photo gallery with one or two pics of me there somewhere though I don't go spreading too many around. Should be at the next MK event and EMS so do say hi if you recognise me. Really helped make a great event getting to know one or two people finally, the more the merrier. I wont be at EMS this year sadly as I have another event that clashes but I do usually go to the MK events and of course LFCC so I'm sure I'll see you around and will remember to say hi. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
adamthemusicfan Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 (edited) I could try my luck to find love at conventions but unfortunately I'm a very shy person when it comes to girls, which is perhaps why I never had a girlfriend and I'm nearly 20. Although, I think socializing with them and hopefully developing a relationship with a girl there is the best chance I will probably get to find a girlfriend, since I didn't like any of the girls who were at my sixth form and I'm not sure if there will be any girls who share my interests at university when I start there in September. I think meeting girls at conventions is a good idea, I could try my luck at Entertainment Media Show in October if I can. Edited July 27, 2011 by adamthehorrorfan Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Purple_Vamp Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 Well, if you do end up with a Speed Dating area, can you section off an area for ladies who like ladies. Lol - or will I be alone in that corner Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tina197 Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 Now, see the idea of Speed Dating scares me! Never been to any but the idea of "You have 3 minutes, GO!" And racking my brain to think of something to say to someone while I'm sitting there in complete silence... lol! All they'd get is "Hi I'm Tina" and that'd be about it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
adriangill Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 Now, see the idea of Speed Dating scares me! Never been to any but the idea of "You have 3 minutes, GO!" And racking my brain to think of something to say to someone while I'm sitting there in complete silence... lol! ;) All they'd get is "Hi I'm Tina" and that'd be about it :smile:I would say that as well, and my name is not even Tina! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dazzlerjames Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 Now, see the idea of Speed Dating scares me! Never been to any but the idea of "You have 3 minutes, GO!" And racking my brain to think of something to say to someone while I'm sitting there in complete silence... lol! All they'd get is "Hi I'm Tina" and that'd be about it I would say that as well, and my name is not even Tina! But it's a good starting point! If you only have 3 minutes then ask them to tell you their favourite song, colour, film etc - or (and it's abit complicated) ask them to describe themselves only using song titles! or use the old favourites - what's your favourite cheese, if you were an animal what would you be, would you rather be chased by 5 duck sized horses or one horse sized duck - you know the usual stuff!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tina197 Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 (edited) Now, see the idea of Speed Dating scares me! Never been to any but the idea of "You have 3 minutes, GO!" And racking my brain to think of something to say to someone while I'm sitting there in complete silence... lol! :lol: All they'd get is "Hi I'm Tina" and that'd be about it I would say that as well, and my name is not even Tina! You sure about that? But it's a good starting point! If you only have 3 minutes then ask them to tell you their favourite song, colour, film etc - or (and it's abit complicated) ask them to describe themselves only using song titles! or use the old favourites - what's your favourite cheese, if you were an animal what would you be, would you rather be chased by 5 duck sized horses or one horse sized duck - you know the usual stuff!! Knowing my luck they'd probably think I was mad, lol! Edited July 27, 2011 by Tina197 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yvie Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 easier said than done for those shy amoungst us, I freeze up, talk crap or sweat and run, my confidence is so low in regard women and I can be very shy :-( That's ballcocks - you talk to me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
adriangill Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 easier said than done for those shy amoungst us, I freeze up, talk crap or sweat and run, my confidence is so low in regard women and I can be very shy :-( That's ballcocks - you talk to me A fact that I pointed out to him. His 'shyness' is just a ploy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
adamthemusicfan Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 I'm always nervous around attractive women lol. I don't how I will ever succeed in actually finding a girlfriend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dazzlerjames Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 easier said than done for those shy amoungst us, I freeze up, talk crap or sweat and run, my confidence is so low in regard women and I can be very shy :-( That's ballcocks - you talk to me Yeah but everyone talks to you!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators DavidB Posted July 27, 2011 Moderators Share Posted July 27, 2011 Rob's a sly one, always bringing up his shyness. People will start seeing through it if it's overdone Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yvie Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 easier said than done for those shy amoungst us, I freeze up, talk crap or sweat and run, my confidence is so low in regard women and I can be very shy :-( That's ballcocks - you talk to me Yeah but everyone talks to you!! Not everyone, otherwise there'd be no need for forum threads asking who I am, lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dazzlerjames Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 easier said than done for those shy amoungst us, I freeze up, talk crap or sweat and run, my confidence is so low in regard women and I can be very shy :-( That's ballcocks - you talk to me Yeah but everyone talks to you!! Not everyone, otherwise there'd be no need for forum threads asking who I am, lol Oh you mean the who's that hot girl threads? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Showmasters Admin Too Tall Posted July 27, 2011 Showmasters Admin Share Posted July 27, 2011 Oh you mean the who's that hot girl threads? No that one's always about me I like to spend at least an hour of each event as Stuetta Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yvie Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 I'm getting old, there aren't as many as there used to be... I'm coming to terms with it, slowly Oh you mean the who's that hot girl threads? No that one's always about me I like to spend at least an hour of each event as Stuetta LOL Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
adriangill Posted July 27, 2011 Share Posted July 27, 2011 Oh you mean the who's that hot girl threads? No that one's always about me I like to spend at least an hour of each event as Stuetta I haven't seen that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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